Are you being abused?
Derbyshire Domestic Abuse Helpline – 08000 198 668
Sheffield Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0808 808 2241
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (24 hour) – 0844 804 4999
In an emergency, dial 999
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is about power and control and can involve physical, emotional, sexual and financial abuse, as well as forced marriage and ‘honour based’ violence. It is rarely a one off incident and tends to get worse over time. Victims may feel frightened, humiliated and isolated.
Who can be affected by domestic abuse?
In England, 1 in 4 women will experience domestic abuse at some point in their lives, for men the statistic is 1 in 6.
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, race, income, culture, disability, sexuality, or lifestyle. The majority of reported domestic abuse is from men to women, however men can also experience abuse and woman can also be abusers. You may be married or in a civil partnership, and the relationship may be a new one or have existed for many years. You may also have separated recently or some time ago. You can also suffer abuse from members of your family.
What are the signs that I am being abused?
Domestic abuse can take many forms. For more information on these, please visit our Types of domestic abuse page. Below are some examples of what you might be experiencing:
- not being allowed to have or see your own friends
- not allowed to go out on your own
- being kept without money
- humiliated, criticised, insulted, or threatened by someone close to you or that you live with
- being hit, hurt or threatened with violence by someone you live with or are close to you
- frightened for yourself or your children
- being forced to have sex or do things during sex that you don’t want to do
- being physically attacked by someone to get what they want from you and your children
- feeling scared because you’ve been accused of bringing shame to your family
- a partner or ex partner is harassing you by text or online
What support is available to me and how do I get help?
There is a range of support available to you if you are affected by domestic abuse. This includes:
- support to help you to think through your options and help you to make decisions that are right for you;
- home visits if it is safe to do so;
- housing advice and support;
- help to access legal advice and support in attending solicitors or court;
- specialist support throughout the Criminal Justice System;
- safety planning for you, your children and your immediate family;
- help with home security;
- help to access financial advice about money matters, welfare benefits and debts;
- referral to specialist support services for children and young people;
- support to access emergency accommodation or a refuge;
- support to attend appointments; and
- signposting to other agencies who can assist with meeting your needs.
To access the support that is right for you, please phone the helpline for your local area. If you are a male victim of domestic abuse, you can also seek confidential support and advice from the Mankind Initiative, a charity that supports male victims